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The tides go in, the tides go out. The sun goes up, the sun goes down. Never a miscommunication. You can't explain that.

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A person is defined by their actions, not their thoughts.

I felt the following to be very true and inspiring:

The true idea of rebuke is strengthening my fellow. And this is because there is no more empowering feeling than knowing what's wrong with me. If I'm out of synch, not living up to my potential -- and my friend comes and points out my faults, I am empowered. Now I know what I'm doing wrong; I see where the wasted energy is -- and I can take off. Thus, rebuke at its highest is helping my fellow in the most profound sense. It is helping him see his faults and weaknesses and giving him the power to take control of his life.

^ So giving girls massages and hugs are wrong?

Where did you get that from?

ainsoph9 wrote:Where did you get that from?

People are telling me to stop giving girl's foot massage as they find it to be wrong. I don't feel rebuked at all instead I feel empowered by defying them.

b0mb3r, I do not think that you are understanding what the message is saying. Rebuke is supposed to empower someone to change for the better, not make them want to defy the rebuker. The person being rebuked should feel that empowerment to overcome their past self. Likewise, the person doing the rebuking should not do it for kicks or because it makes them feel better; rather, it should be to help both people improve themselves without shaming one another.

As for giving girls foot massages, my opinion is below.

If you wish to be brief, first prune away those devices that contribute to an elaborate style; let the entire theme be confined within narrow limits. Do not be concerned about verbs; rather, write down with the pen of the mind only the nouns . . . follow, as it were, the technique of the metalworker. Transfer the iron of the material, refined in the fire of the understanding, to the anvil of the study. Let the hammer of the intellect make it pliable; let repeated blows of the hammer fashion from the unformed mass the most suitable words. Let the bellows of the mind afterwards fuse those words, adding others to accompany them, fusing nouns with verbs, and verbs with nouns, to express the whole theme. The glory of a brief work consists in this: it says nothing either more or less than is fitting.
=Geoffrey De Vinsauf

"I mean it as a compliment when I say that you could almost define a philosopher as someone who won’t take common sense for an answer."

Richard Dawkins

I received this in an e-mail. The profundity and truth of it really struck me.

Nobody finds themselves in a situation; you put yourself in that situation and you can put yourself in another situation.

- Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson

So much for being "stuck" in life...

^ While it is a matter of perspective and willpower to change oneself in relation with the environment, there are things that we still find ourselves in that we have no control of. My response to that quote I had in my mind is simply how you play your cards whether they're good or bad.

Basically, you build your hand and you chose how to play it.. how fun... Hard, maybe...

Rajikai wrote:Basically, you build your hand and you chose how to play it.. how fun... Hard, maybe...

When playing cards two things comes in mind: Luck and Skill. The luck of the draw. Even with the worst hand you could be dealt with everything can be turned around by presentation, bluff, and swiping hands .

b0mb3r wrote:^ While it is a matter of perspective and willpower to change oneself in relation with the environment, there are things that we still find ourselves in that we have no control of. My response to that quote I had in my mind is simply how you play your cards whether they're good or bad.

He is not saying that we should or need to be in control of or responsible for everything around us. He is just saying that most of the time the situations people find themselves in are the consequence of their choices, and they have the power to be positive or negative about the situation to bring change or not.